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“是不是我丈夫负责我与主同行,如果他的精神领袖?”

A wife asks, “Could you please tell me what the difference is between a husband not being responsible for my walk with the Lord and being the spiritual leader in the family?”

This is a fantastic question!It could be the topic of an entire book.Here are my thoughts.Please compare anything I say with Scripture.

What Does It Mean for the Husband to Lead?

A husband is accountable before God to be the leader of the family and the wife is to honor her husband’s leadership—unless he asks her to clearly sin (1 Cor.11:3, Eph.5:22-33, Col 3:18-19, Acts 5:28, 1 Pet.3:7).

Godly Spiritual Leadership

Jesus described godly leadership to His disciples when He explained that He set the example of humility by washing their feet (a job only the lowest slaves did at that time).He taught them that anyone who wants to be great in His kingdom must be a servant to others (Matt.20:25-28).

Jesus taught that those in positions of leadership in His kingdom are not to “lord authority over” others but serve them in love (Matt.20:25-28).It is not about being a selfish tyrant, but rather being a selfless, humble, yielded servant of Christ.

A husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and gave Himself up for her (Eph.5:22-33).He is to live with his wife in an understanding way as the weaker vessel (1 Pet.3:7).He is accountable to the Lord for making the final decisions in the family (1 Cor.11:3, Eph.5:22-33).

When a husband and wife are making decisions, ideally they will discuss things together (if time permits).A loving husband cares about his wife’s feelings, concerns, and ideas.

如果他们不能同意或没有时间讨论sion, it is ultimately the husband’s decision to make and he answers to God for his decision and it is a wife’s responsibility to have a cooperative spirit.He is not to make decisions selfishly, but seek what is truly best for his wife and family.

If a husband believes his wife is sinning or heading in a dangerous direction spiritually, he is responsible to lovingly address the issues he sees, wanting to see his wife grow in her walk with the Lord.

He is also responsible to lead by setting a godly example of submission to the Lordship of Christ and obedience to God’s Word.He should desire to live a holy, Spirit-filled life evidenced by the fruit of the Spirit (Gal.5:22-23) and to love with the very agape love of Jesus (1 Cor.13:4-8) knowing he will be held to a greater level of accountability as the leader.

任谁解决了另一个信徒的罪信徒是:

  • 地址在他/她自己的生活第一(马特任何罪。7:1-5)
  • 按照神给了一个指令虔诚的训斥(加。6:1-2,马特18:15-17)。

A husband can seek to lead and guide his wife, but her response is her responsibility before God.He can’t convict her of sin, open her eyes, or make her obey the Lord.

Jesus, ultimately, accomplishes the sanctification of each believer through His death on the cross.The Holy Spirit is the only one who can convict people of sin, open blinded eyes, and change people.And each person has free-will to obey or rebel against the Lord.

God provides spiritual leaders for us to follow.It is our choice whether we follow or not.

就像一个好牧人,他能带领她的水和食物,但她必须决定接受它。

A husband seeks to protect his wife from harm spiritually, emotionally, and physically and to make sure she has all she needs to thrive, just like Jesus does for us.

And just like believers can choose to submit or rebel against Jesus and His leadership, a wife has that same choice and is accountable for her obedience to the Lord and her cooperation with her husband’s leadership.

Ways a husband may lead

He may ask her to take certain things off of her plate if he sees she is exhausted and trying to do too much.He may notice ungodly influences in her life and ask her to avoid those things or people.He may encourage her to take better care of herself and get the rest and time with God she needs.

He may ask for her help with a ministry God has called him to.Or he may feel a different approach would be best for disciplining their children.

Husbands have a learning curve as they learn to become better leaders just like wives have a learning curve as they learn to become better followers and influencers.We all need grace, at times.

Different Styles

There is plenty of room for different leadership styles, personality types, and for each couple to work out what dynamics work best for them in the framework the Lord provides.

Some husbands will delegate more and give their wives a whole lot of freedom and discretion and only give feedback occasionally.Some will give more concrete direction more often.

What Is the Wife’s Role?

丈夫有权威的位置和妻子有权威影响力。The husband is essentially in the driver’s seat.Not because he is more important or better than the wife, but because this is God’s design to be a的方式耶稣与教会相关图片。

丈夫和妻子的关系应该是福音都可以看到一个活生生的写照。

Or an even better analogy than a driver’s seat could be, they are two oxen pulling a yoke together in a field under the direction of their owner.One ox is the lead, but they both pull their weight.This is why God calls us not to be “unequally yoked” with an unbeliever vs a believer.

We need to be pulling our own weight and going in the same direction with the same purpose.

The wife has a voice and influence and, as a believer, should use her power for good in her husband’s life (like Esther and the Proverbs 31 wife), never for evil (like Eve or Jezebel).

我是一个帮手谁授权我的丈夫更好地完成上帝的意志和他在我们的婚姻和家庭荣耀。I seek to honor my husband’s God-given leadership and have a cooperative spirit first with Christ then with my husband.

I put my strength and support behind my husband’s leadership and seek to make his job easier by taking some of the details off of his hands so he can focus on God’s calling in his life and his responsibilities.

I respect my husband’s position as leader and God’s design for marriage and desire to履行我对上帝的设计作用。

Wives have responsibilities for themselves, too

My boss is a God-given authority in my life, but he doesn’t do my work for me.He supervises me and is there if I have questions.He lets me know if I need to improve in various areas.He provides the resources and direction I need to do the best job I can do.

It’s similar in marriage.Our husbands are responsible to lead us properly, but we are still responsible to do our work.

A wife still has to:

  • 从她自己的救赎与恐惧战兢(菲尔工作。2:12-13)。
  • 通过私下祈祷(马特订阅自己精神上。6:6)和读神的话语为自己(诗篇。119:105,1宠物。2:2)。
  • 听圣灵和顺服神的话语为自己(约翰福音14:15-17)。

We put our own spiritual armor on (Eph.6:10-18).We praise and thank God without our husbands telling us to.We pray fervently for ourselves and others without having to be prompted.We seek Christ first in our lives and stand on His promises for ourselves.

We should be asking the Lord to help us see sin in our own lives and repenting of sin we see.We shouldn’t just wait on our husbands to tell us when we are in error.

We should take responsibility for our精神健康and情感福祉而不是指望我们的丈夫携带我们所有的精神和情感的重量让我们。我的丈夫是不负责我的幸福。我们是队友都长大成年人谁承担个人的责任在我们自己的生活。

我们正在非常积极地参与爱心和跟随基督我们的丈夫是否检查了对我们与否。我们知道,我们是上帝,我们认为单独负责所有,再说了,做我们的丈夫是否导致我们好不好。

所以后来我们每个人都会给上帝交代自己。

只读存储器。14:12

如果我有关于神学或圣经的问题,我可以去我的丈夫,请他帮助我理解。我可以向他要的事情的意见或方向。

但我不能求他上面的上帝的认可。我不想崇拜我的丈夫。(他不应该崇拜我满意。)我应该比较什么我丈夫说圣经。神的话语,他的智慧比任何人的高。

我现在想赢得人的批准吗s, or of God?Or am I trying to please people?If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.

加尔。1:10

神持有妻子的责任,如果我们明知跟随我们的丈夫陷入罪。见莎菲拉的故事。

我们与主的关系是个人和私人。我们不必去通过我们的丈夫或牧师去神。我们直接办理耶稣是我们的大祭司。

然后,我们谦卑地寻求履行我们的丈夫的领导当存敬畏基督,信靠上帝通过我们的丈夫带领我们。

箴言31:10-31是一个虔诚的妻子,以及如何积极主动的一个伟大的描述和强大,她是精神上和她怎么祝福她的丈夫和孩子。

我的丈夫不拥有我的思想,我的良心,或者我的决定

我的丈夫不能决定我什么,我想,我相信什么,我说什么,和我做什么。我负责这些事情我自己。每个人都有上帝赋予的自由意志。

基督教的妻子也可以恭恭敬敬吸引她丈夫的决定,如果她认为这是必要的,有时。

如果丈夫是犯罪

如果妻子认为丈夫是犯罪或者在一个危险的方向前进,她可以恭敬虔诚地并寻求解决的情况如以斯帖一样。不作为的领导者,但作为领袖和值得信赖的顾问。

如果他想她引入邪教,伪宗教,或罪,她不能跟随。她会说和尊敬行动。她可以证明,她要纪念他的领导能力,但让她不能跟他是什么,要她做的是外围神的话语。

当我也不敢提交给我的丈夫吗?

如果一个妻子嫁给一个异教徒?

如果一个基督徒的妻子发现自己嫁给一个不信的丈夫,上帝甚至可以用不信的人来带领她。她仍然需要履行丈夫的领导,除非他要求她反叛神。

她愿意尊重和孝敬她的丈夫可能是非常仪表主用他的画中耶稣的救恩和永生。

她不能强迫他的属灵的眼睛打开,但她可以用她难以置信的影响力通过圣灵和她的榜样,寻求与他联系。

影响的不信的丈夫基督

哥林多前书7和彼得前书3:1-6是在这种情况下,妻子重要的资源,也是如此。

注意

如果在婚姻严重的问题,而妻子是不是安全和/或丈夫是不是在他的心中,她应该寻求帮助尽快出来。有些时候,它是不安全的妻子与丈夫的领先合作。请参阅文章底部精神权威。

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  1. Amen!A husband can be the best leader ever but the wife has free will and it’s up to her to follow or not.

    1. Kevin,
      That’s true!
      And a husband can be a fairly poor leader, but with a godly wife supporting him and honoring his leadership, he may learn and grow to become a great leader.

  2. Nice, I love it.I also think we as wives should be careful not to allow sermons or other pastors take the lead over our husbands authority.Not sure if this makes sense, but I used to struggle with this by challenging my husband according to what another pastor said, rather than to yield to my husbands decision making/ leadership.

  3. Husband got very angry, and said I disrespected him last night.Says he has been saying the same thing for years.Then goes on a rant of if i am going to rise up, then pay all the bills then.Starts saying I am just like my mom, she disrepects him and disrepected my dad.

    We are believers, in fact we started a church a couple years ago.But it didn’t work out, and he blames me for it.

    I see that I have fallen into the trap of focusing on the negative, and looking for him to give me attention.He has verbalizes that I don’t listen to him, and thats why he doesn’t lead me because of it.
    Even though I have worked on it, and improved…if I have a down day (like yesterday) Its like it is all erased.

    Last Night went in a whole different direction…he said he was leaving me and everything.

    He also did this a year ago…

    It’s very difficult to come back from that.

    I was just starting to get over him wanted to separate over a year ago…things were good.

    And then last night he just blew up, from something I felt was small (obviously not to him)

    And said we aren’t going to be together.

    I listened to him and Apologized

    Please pray for a Speedy change in me, because I feel like he has no patience for me anymore.He feels you could have something just click in your mind, and make that change.

    1. Marguerite,

      Oh, dear!It sounds like things are very painful.
      I hope to reach you privately by email, if that is okay.

      Husbands do think this stuff should all just “click” suddenly for wives.Most of the time it is a very slow process for us as we learn.The things God has for husbands to learn can be a slow process, as well.

      Praying for you both and for God’s wisdom and healing.

  4. I’m still struggling with this issue.There is big difficulty in letting go of control and allow my non-believing husband to lead me.What the Lord has been showing me is that if I follow his lead life would be a bit more peaceful.And yet I resist.I think the issue centers on respect.Why is this so hard?
    P.S.given what I just said, my name seems a bit ironic.

    1. Happily gave up,

      我有许多关于提交和意味着什么 what it doesn’t mean because this topic can get really confusing or warped very quickly.And my book has chapters on the topic, as well, “betway体育app官网。”

      My husband was a believer but was so spiritually wounded, shut down, and far from the Lord when I started this journey, that I had to approach things in a similar way as if he was an unbeliever.At first, honestly, I didn’t think God could lead me through Greg.I thought Greg was not able or willing to lead.I thought I had to take over.

      But I saw that God’s Word said the husband is to lead.I felt sure I would sit and do absolutely nothing until I was 80 years old if I waited on Greg.But I decided to tell the Lord, “I know Your Word says I need to follow Greg and that You want him to lead.I don’t think he can even hear you right now.And I don’t think he wants to lead me.But I am going to obey and trust You with this.My real faith and trust is in You to lead me even through an imperfect man.If You want me to sit and do nothing, then that is what I’ll do.But I want to do things Your way from now on.If Greg asks me to sin, I won’t follow.But otherwise, I will wait on him.I will present issues to him.But I won’t push or pressure him.And I won’t run ahead or take over and steamroll him.”

      The real issue is my respect and trust in Jesus and His Word and His commands for me.It’s not ultimately a matter of whether I think my is the best leader or always makes the right decisions.

      Now, if a husband is not in his right mind, is actively involved in a drug/alcohol addiction, has an uncontrolled mental health issue going on, is demon possessed, is dangerous/abusive, or has dementia, a wife has to take a different approach.The end goal is always to honor God’s Word and to try to have a cooperative spirit with the husband’s leadership if he is not asking the wife to sin.But if there are severe issues, a wife may need to reach out for help.

      This is hard.In my view, it is one of the greatest tests of our faith in the Lord.

      If you need to talk more about this, I’m here!<3

      影响的不信的丈夫基督。

  5. Thanks.I think I needed some encouragement here.The Lord has been working with me on this and it is so much harder than it sounds!I don’t believe that being respectful to my husband is a negation of my will or personality at all.Twice during this lockdown there were incidents where I normally would have chastised him but instead took a deep breath and thanked him for the effort he put forth.Inside I was annoyed but outwardly I was respectful.That’s what I mean by it being hard.To deny my sinful side and accept the Lord’s way.

    1. BTW, taking a breath was more of a figure of speech, not one of those breaths where you know the person is annoyed.

    2. Happily gave up,

      It is very against our normal nature.Yep.If it helps, what God asks husbands to do is equally difficult for them.

      I’m really proud of you!That sounds like progress.In the beginning, you start with the outward stuff first, and then God continues to work and help to transform the inward part.

      Thanks for clarifying the breath!

      If you need more support or encouragement, please let me know.<3

      Much love,
      April

  6. One thing as a Christian woman I would love to be – and above any other status – I would love to have the reputation of being – is a good influence!April, you are a good (godly) influence.God bless you and keep you.❤️

    1. 玛莎男,

      That is certainly my prayer, to be a light and to point women to Jesus and His goodness and healing.

      Thank you for the encouragement.May the Lord empower us all to impact the world for His glory!<3

      1. Thanks April.I’ve just stumbled across your blog – after doing a Google search on certain marital issues!As I said – I love it and can identify with everything I’ve read so far.So much so – that I’ve gone back to the beginning of your archives – Jan 2012 – and started reading them all.You will be getting a lot of likes from me for a while!I hope it doesn’t start to become annoying!There might be quite a few comments too after the more recent posts.God has raised you up for a reason.And if you hadn’t walked the broad path in marriage for 14 years – you wouldn’t have such a great story to share about the narrow path!That’s a testimony to God’s love, grace and mercy surely!Blessings ❤️

        1. 玛莎男,

          这是美妙的,以满足你,你是最欢迎的份额自己喜欢的任何讨论。这些评论不是在真的老了岗位打开。但是你可以分享较新的见解随时随地。

          当我第一次看到我的罪我彻底绝望了。我希望我能抹去这14年我的生活,让这一切奇迹般地消失了。我不想让任何人知道。但现在我感觉完全不同了。我很高兴来分享我的罪过和错误和神如何医治了我。什么祝福要获得这条道路,并帮助他们找到的步骤愈合和上帝的狭窄道路上的其他女人走路。所有的赞美和荣耀都归给耶和华!他是如此的很不错。我希望每个人都可以体验到丰富的生活中,我们可以有耶稣。

  7. I love reading your thoughts on this topic.My husband is definitely the spiritual leader in our home, but everyone in our family is responsible to tend to our own spiritual health and we encourage each other.I also tend to my children’s spiritual growth, and pray with them, teach them the Bible, their catechism (we use New City catechism) etc.I agree that submission is not the same as passivity.I wouldn’t be a good helpmeet to my husband if I was completely passive!

    1. Mrs.D.,

      Husbands don’t need another child or a rug that lies on the floor.We each have our own load to carry and we can use our influence to be a blessing and to do our husbands good, not harm, all the days of our lives.

      Thank you so much for sharing!I love your description of how you and your husbands manage your household.<3

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