Gentleness is submitting my strength and my will to the Lordship of Christ.
- A powerful hand with a soft touch.
- Tenderness and compassion.
- A choice prompted by love.
- Kindness and courtesy.
- Unwilling to attack others.
- Bold yet careful.
- Not manipulative.
- Part of holiness and godliness.
- Humble, not desiring to draw attention to self.
- Seeking to bless others in their weakness instead of taking advantage of them.
- Rudeness, manipulation, or disrespect.
- Harshness, meanness, or malice.
- Baseness or wildness.
- Cruelty and unkindness.
- Violence, aggression, abuse, or brutality.
- Sharpness, coldness, or evil.
- Resentfulness and divisiveness.
作为妻子，我们没有体力我们的丈夫做的，平时。我们依靠我们的丈夫温柔与美国体育sically so they use their strength to help us and make our lives better and safer.We also depend on our husbands not being harsh with us so we can feel safe with them and thrive.(1 Pet.3:7)
We have great strength in our words, even if we may not be as strong physically.Let’s be careful to use our words to build up, bless, encourage and speak life to our men and others.Let’s never use our words to attack, tear down, and destroy.When we treat each other with gentleness, the Lord is honored, oneness improves greatly in our marriages, and others are drawn to Christ in us.
The gentleness challenge
For the next three days, let’s invite God to help us respond to others with gentleness with our husbands (and children and others)!
- Avoid raising your voice, even if others do.
- Use a calm, gentle tone of voice.
- Whisper if you feel like yelling.
NOTE: Hopefully it goes without saying, don’t ever hit, shove, push, or physically attack your husband or anyone else.Don’t threaten physical harm.Don’t throw objects or destroy furniture or kick or punch doors or walls.If anyone in your home is physically dangerous and out of control and others aren’t safe, please reach out for help.
What does the Bible say about gentleness?
- (A wife’s beauty)Let it be [the inner beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, 1 Pet.3:4
- A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.Prov.15:1
- Let your gentleness be evident to all.The Lord is near.Phil.4:5
The power of gentleness
We don’t win people to our side or our point of view by being harsh, accusatory, critical, or angry.If I blow up at my husband or others and lose self-control, my words lose their power.I forfeit having a strong influence.But gentle words have great power of persuasion.
Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone.Prov.25:15
Gentleness draws people to us and to Jesus!It makes people put down their defensiveness and take down their walls.It lets people know they are safe with us in every way.It is essential for real intimacy, trust, and relationship.
Gentleness is something beautiful Jesus calls us all to live out in our everyday lives.He was the all-powerful, omniscient, eternal Creator and King of kings.And yet, He humbled Himself to be gentle with us in our weakness.
I’m excited to study more about this incredibly valuable virtue.It’s one of God’s greatest spiritual treasures and He wants to share it generously with us.
We can’t do this in our weakness but as we yield to His Spirit, He can give us the power of gentleness.
What if I mess up?
If you are doing the gentleness challenge and mess up, what can you do?
My suggestion is:
1.Immediately stop and apologize for being harsh, raising your voice, or whatever you did that you didn’t want to do.(Without justifying yourself.) “I apologize.I just responded harshly.”
2.Say, “That is not how I want to talk to you.I want to respond gently.I’d like to try that again.”
3.Do it the way you really believe represents how God would like you to respond.
4.Repent to the Lord and invite Him to help you.
If you stumble, recognize it, correct it, and get right back up, focusing on Jesus and welcoming His Spirit to have control.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.1 John 1:9
谁隐瞒他的过犯不会prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.Prov.28:13
You’re welcome to comment if you want to join me!
How does your husband’s gentleness impact you?How would you define the quality of gentleness?
Have you got any wisdom about being gentle you’d like to share?
Would you like to share an example of a time God empowered you to respond gently and it made all the difference?