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温柔的力量

如果你心情不好,害怕,还是在痛苦和别人对待你严厉,你感觉如何?您希望如何来应对呢?

如果你轻轻地有一个可怕的时间,有人响应你,你怎么倾向于回应呢?

温柔是圣灵所有信徒都在我们在我们的婚姻相互作用例证,与我们的孩子,与其他信徒,非信徒,甚至与那些谁反对我们的成果的一部分。

我丈夫的温柔融化了我

我能想到的很多次当我有PMS和感到非常沮丧,或当我哭了很多,或者当我在吨疼痛和Greg只是轻轻的把我拉进一个拥抱。

他本来可以生气。他可能已经被激怒了。但他不是。他很平静。稳定。暖。和热情。

当他用自己的实力来包装我在一个温柔的怀抱,我的心脏融化。我的担心开始溶解。我的眼泪放缓。

温柔是强大的。这是在丈夫的爱强大。或妻子的爱。它的愈合。它解除。它孕育亲密和统一性。

什么是温柔?

首先,这不是弱点。劣势并不一定要轻柔。它不能做伤害。它没有力量或权力。这是谁必须要学会温柔和控制自己的力量,使他们不伤害别人强。

温柔也并不美好的事物。作为很好的手段,我们做的好东西给别人保护自己和我们不站出来反对错了。如果我们是很好的,我们是谁,再也不想找麻烦的人同意取悦。温柔可以站起来反对邪恶的,但它以尊重,荣誉,和爱的意图这样做。

温柔是不是淡而washiness。这不是作为一个受气包或局外人。

Gentleness is submitting my strength and my will to the Lordship of Christ.

温柔是很多事情:

  • A powerful hand with a soft touch.
  • Tenderness and compassion.
  • A choice prompted by love.
  • Kindness and courtesy.
  • Unwilling to attack others.
  • Bold yet careful.
  • Not manipulative.
  • Part of holiness and godliness.
  • Humble, not desiring to draw attention to self.
  • Seeking to bless others in their weakness instead of taking advantage of them.

温柔的反面是:

  • Rudeness, manipulation, or disrespect.
  • Harshness, meanness, or malice.
  • Baseness or wildness.
  • Cruelty and unkindness.
  • Violence, aggression, abuse, or brutality.
  • Sharpness, coldness, or evil.
  • Resentfulness and divisiveness.

温柔的婚姻

作为妻子,我们没有体力我们的丈夫做的,平时。我们依靠我们的丈夫温柔与美国体育sically so they use their strength to help us and make our lives better and safer.We also depend on our husbands not being harsh with us so we can feel safe with them and thrive.(1 Pet.3:7)

We have great strength in our words, even if we may not be as strong physically.Let’s be careful to use our words to build up, bless, encourage and speak life to our men and others.Let’s never use our words to attack, tear down, and destroy.When we treat each other with gentleness, the Lord is honored, oneness improves greatly in our marriages, and others are drawn to Christ in us.

The gentleness challenge

For the next three days, let’s invite God to help us respond to others with gentleness with our husbands (and children and others)!

  1. Avoid raising your voice, even if others do.
  2. Use a calm, gentle tone of voice.
  3. Whisper if you feel like yelling.

NOTE: Hopefully it goes without saying, don’t ever hit, shove, push, or physically attack your husband or anyone else.Don’t threaten physical harm.Don’t throw objects or destroy furniture or kick or punch doors or walls.If anyone in your home is physically dangerous and out of control and others aren’t safe, please reach out for help.

What does the Bible say about gentleness?

  • (A wife’s beauty)Let it be [the inner beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, 1 Pet.3:4
  • A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.Prov.15:1
  • Let your gentleness be evident to all.The Lord is near.Phil.4:5

The power of gentleness

We don’t win people to our side or our point of view by being harsh, accusatory, critical, or angry.If I blow up at my husband or others and lose self-control, my words lose their power.I forfeit having a strong influence.But gentle words have great power of persuasion.

Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone.

Prov.25:15

Gentleness draws people to us and to Jesus!It makes people put down their defensiveness and take down their walls.It lets people know they are safe with us in every way.It is essential for real intimacy, trust, and relationship.

Gentleness is something beautiful Jesus calls us all to live out in our everyday lives.He was the all-powerful, omniscient, eternal Creator and King of kings.And yet, He humbled Himself to be gentle with us in our weakness.

I’m excited to study more about this incredibly valuable virtue.It’s one of God’s greatest spiritual treasures and He wants to share it generously with us.

We can’t do this in our weakness but as we yield to His Spirit, He can give us the power of gentleness.

What if I mess up?

If you are doing the gentleness challenge and mess up, what can you do?

My suggestion is:

1.Immediately stop and apologize for being harsh, raising your voice, or whatever you did that you didn’t want to do.(Without justifying yourself.) “I apologize.I just responded harshly.”

2.Say, “That is not how I want to talk to you.I want to respond gently.I’d like to try that again.”

3.Do it the way you really believe represents how God would like you to respond.

4.Repent to the Lord and invite Him to help you.

If you stumble, recognize it, correct it, and get right back up, focusing on Jesus and welcoming His Spirit to have control.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

1 John 1:9

谁隐瞒他的过犯不会prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.

Prov.28:13

Share

You’re welcome to comment if you want to join me!

How does your husband’s gentleness impact you?How would you define the quality of gentleness?

Have you got any wisdom about being gentle you’d like to share?

Would you like to share an example of a time God empowered you to respond gently and it made all the difference?

Much love!

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6个想法,“温柔的力量”

  1. Hi I love this post.My husband also can melt me with a hug if I’m upset.I do remember using a gentle tone of voice in work with a staff member who was speaking to me and was angry.I felt annoyed but used a gentle tone of voice in reply.I did not give in but made my point.I saw her visibly relax and soften as if the wind had went out of her sails.
    I am guilty of being ‘nice’ as part of being a people pleaser.I’m working on this and hope to be gentle instead of nice.

    1. Beth McLaughlin,

      Thank you so much for sharing!

      I have seen when I responded to angry customers in the pharmacy over the years gently, many times they would calm down.Not always.But many times they would.

      Love your description of how your gentle tone and response took the wind out of her sails.She realized you weren’t going to try to challenge or fight her.You can speak the truth in love without being rude, without seeking to harm others, and with their best interests at heart.Isn’t that wonderful?

      I like this post I found on FB recently about being nice:

      Many Christians believe that the highest calling God has placed on us is to be nice.These Christians are wrong.God has not called us to be nice.Rather, He has called us to be good.Here’s the difference: nice people never confront evil.Good people do.Nice people are weak.Good people are strong.Jesus wasn’t nice.He was kind, He was compassionate, He was caring, but He was unbending and unflinching when it came to standing for the truth.And it cost Him His life.

      I tend toward people pleasing, myself.The thought is, “If I can be nice enough and treat people really well, they will always like me and approve of me and what I do.” But my greatest goal can’t be to get people’s approval, it’s got to be God’s approval and people’s greatest eternal good.

      Thanks so much for sharing!

      Much love!

  2. Love this!I want to join you in being intentional about gentleness and pray about this virtue… I’ve found when I’m not gentle and recognize it, I realize I’ve been self protecting because of past pain and that’s not ok.
    Working through pain & trusting God to take care of me, let’s me be gentle ❤️sometimes it’s hard for me to know where the balance is with being gentle & feminine and yet not be ignorant & nondiscerning…

    1. Rachel Kauffman,

      I’m so glad you are joining!Yes, we think we are protecting ourselves, but we end up just sabotaging all the wonderful things we desire most.

      I have a lot of posts about how to find that balance and not become a doormat.Would you like some resources?

      Much love!

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